1. Is there some sort of rule that all low budget commercials must be inherently creepy?
Fortunately I no longer have to endure this while watching the morning news during breakfast, because Feldco has since switched to a new commercial, but every time it (or any other similar ad) came on, it made me think of wholesale window retailer ads that used to air in my hometown, and those were always ridiculously creepy, too. I mean, I get budget constraints, but surely, surely, there must be a way to make cheap commercials without making me terrified of buying windows. Right? Am I completely off base here?
2. Just popping in here as your friendly neighborhood Bachelor of Arts in English to correct a grievous usage error I’ve seen at an alarming frequency around Blogland over the past couple of months:
Weary (def.): physically or mentally exhausted by hard work, exertion, strain, etc.
Leery (def.): wary, suspicious
Weary ≠ leery, people. If you’re unsure of someone’s motives, thoughts, behaviors, patterns, etc., you are LEERY of them. You’re not WEARY of them (unless, of course, you’re beyond tired of hearing someone talk about something, in which case you might be weary of listening to them talk about it).
While we’re on the topic of grammar pet peeves, “as per usual” is redundant. It’s either “as usual” or “per usual,” not “as per usual.” I have this on solid, academic, professor-endorsed authority.
3. So I accidentally signed up for a softball team on Sunday. Whoops.
“Spontaneous” is really probably a better word to describe what happened than “accidental.” Well, maybe spontaneous isn’t even the most accurate word. Something like this has been a long time coming, I suppose. Everything has been coming to a head over the past few weeks, and Sunday was finally the last straw. Basically, I feel exceptionally unfulfilled relationally in Chicago, and as a person who needs relationships, it’s very frustrating and disheartening to feel that way. For me, there’s a pretty big difference between surface friends and relational friends*, and while I’m not lacking for surface friends, I’m not quite where I want to be in the relational friend department. Certainly, a lot of this has to do with me. I’ve been more or less resting on my laurels, waiting for relationships to develop organically when honestly, that’s just not going to happen if I keep doing what I’ve been doing (i.e.: nothing). Sitting around my apartment and whining to myself about how I feel like I have no social circle in Chicago is hardly the best way to go about making a social circle in Chicago. Enter: softball.
I’m really, really lousy at softball and would have preferred a different sport, but when one decides three hours before registration closes to sign up for a league, one takes what one can get and doesn’t complain about it haha. I’ve played sports through this league before and though I didn’t leave with any life long friends, I did really enjoy spending time with my team and my experience in the league. I think the biggest challenge (aside from the whole “catching, throwing, and/or making bat-to-ball connection” thing) will be forcing myself to take the necessary steps to attempt to make relational friends. I am not an initiator. I don’t even like to start gchats with people (I could probably count the number of times I’ve started a gchat on one hand in five years of having Gmail), let alone asking people to hang out. I almost always operate under the assumption that if someone wants to hang out with me, they’ll ask to hang out with me, and if they don’t ask to hang out with me, that therefore means they don’t want to spend their time with me, don’t like me, I have no friends, everyone hates me, I’m so alone, blah blah blah woe is me pity party. I’m very well aware of the fact that my hesitation to invite anyone to do anything ever under any circumstance at all is probably 85% of the reason why I have like one almost-relational friend in Chicago: because I’m not putting any effort into developing relationships. Not an effective method, Bethany.
So we’ll see what happens with all of this. Hopefully I can woman up and “make the first move,” if you will, in the friendship department with some of my teammates. At the very least, I now have one more way unconventional way to complement marathon training.
And don’t worry. I’m still taking hip hop and breakdance. Obviously. Let’s not get crazy here, people. Marathon? What marathon? I can BS that like I BS a 5K, right? Hello, my name is Bethany, and I’m a COMPLETE IDIOT that’s just BEGGING to injure herself by not in any way respecting the amount of time and effort and dedication it takes to train for a marathon.
*Surface friends = people you are friendly with. The people you say hi to when you pass them on the street. People you chat with when you happen to be in the same place (sitting next to each other in class, taking a lunch break at the same time in the same room, etc.).
Relational friends = people you have a genuine, real friendship with and connection to. The people who get a real answer when they ask, “How are you?” People you hang out with outside of whatever it is that brought you together in the first place (class, work, church, organization, club, team, etc.)
(Two other important things to note: #1: There’s nothing bad about having surface friends. In fact, I think surface friends are fantastic, especially in group settings. It only becomes bad for me when I feel like all of my friends are surface friends, because that’s when I feel like I’m lacking real connection with others. #2: I do realize that I have an abundance of surface friends from a variety of things I’ve been involved with and that I could, of course, put forth more effort with in an attempt to be relational friends with them. I’m also not in any way opposed to developing relationships with the surface friends I currently have. A large part of me feels, though, that I might have more success in an environment where all of us are starting from scratch with each other. I’ve allowed myself to become complacent in meeting people and have started to settle for what’s familiar–even though what’s familiar is, by and large, unsatisfactory–instead of pushing myself out of my comfort zone. And since my comfort zone has lately been more uncomfortable than not, I might as well get out of it once a week or so.)
4. And a bonus for making it through that long, self-indulgent rant:
Dying. Too, too funny.
Have you ever seen a low budget commercial that was really well done? Because I’d love to have my theory disproved…
Grammar pet peeves?
Thoughts on the whole surface friends/relational friends thing?