Before we get down to business…
Sorry about the screen/blurriness, but whoa. It was a pretty dreary day around here, so this was a wonderful and unexpected surprise that I just had to share.
On to Kick The Habit: Week Two!
As you may remember, last week I had some trouble letting a few ritualistic habits of mine go. I mostly struggled with this because the one or two previous days I had altered my habits had ended with thunderstorms. While logically I recognize that that’s just coincidence, not causation, changing this up was a pretty big step for me. I also did not wear red on Monday for the first time in weeks. I’m all about baby steps 😉
This post is not about letting those things go, however. Over the course of the summer, I have received three pieces of exceptionally shocking work-related news. Two of these pieces of news were bad while one was neither good nor bad, just really unexpected. My boss announced the two pieces of bad shocking news to all those where I work at early morning meetings before the day really began since they affected all of us directly. In both instances, he told us because he wanted us to hear the news from a reliable source, not through rumors or hearsay, but he wanted the issue to be dropped and for us to focus 100% on work for the rest of the day.
While I’m sure it’s normal to not be able to let shocking news go instantly, in all three of these cases I’ve found myself spending my entire day obsessively thinking about the news. Though I’m able to focus on my work in the sense that I’m able to get things done that need to be done, all day my mind is on the news I received. I don’t know if this is an OCD thing or if this is a normal human reaction, but it seems to me that being trapped in a cycle of the same thoughts about the same news is the opposite of freeing. It’s stifling, upsetting, and has resulted in lots of crying on the way home from work.
What I’ve learned through all of this is the importance of processing outside of myself. When I let myself think and think and think about these things, I get nowhere. Writing and talking with others about them, however, make a world of difference. I make progress towards freeing myself from the weight of these burdens when I share the news with others. I know we hear all the time about how unhealthy it can be to bottle up emotions, but I’m coming to see how doing this also keeps us from being free. Communication, people. It’s a powerful thing.
What helps you let things go?